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I read this article someone wrote about Jared Leto today and it was so beautiful. Yes, I have a crazy love for him that I can't explain haha, BUT reading his articles, posts, and watching his documentaries he has SO much to say. He asks so many questions and that's what makes him different from everyone else. He is so successful, and I am not talking about career wise, I am talking about the way he thinks and sees the world. It is really fascinating to me. He doesn't give a shit, but also cares so much. I think we should all live a little more "Jared Leto-like"
Below is an excerpt from the article that was my favorite.
The fact is: Jared Leto doesn’t do what you are supposed to do and he gets away with it. Makes films when he wants to. Records when the time is right. It might be luck, it might be talent, it could be hard work, or it could just be fueled by the naïve optimism that comes from a once-broke Louisiana kid who was told early on that being creative might not make you any less broke, but it might make being broke a little less shitty. It’s why his eyes are wide and blinking them is a waste of precious time. There’s too much to take in, too much to see. Fuck Google Earth. Technology is a weed. It blocks pathways.
“This is a crazy time in my life, but it’s a focused time,” he says. “It’s not like it’s out of control. You only get to do this once and in this case once may be the only time you get to do it. It’s a funny way to say it, but it’s kind of true. I’m acutely aware of that and very respectful of the path I’m walking down. I’m glad that this happened to me now and not when I first started. It’s a really good thing.”
Read the full article HERE!
No breakup, birthday, "time of the month" will ever be the same soon thanks to Ben & Jerry's...
They are coming out with a NEW ice cream line "CORE" basically it has a column down the middle of the pint that is a core center of fudge, raspberry jam, or caramel. GENIUS. Changing the game of ice cream
I don't know about you but I'll first stand in the aisle for too long trying to even pick out what one I want to indulge in, then when I finally make this life changing decision, I sit and pick out the chocolate fish, cookie dough or caramel bites to make the perfect scoops.
I feel like they read my mind and answered all my prayers, because now with this new design every scoop and bite is going to be perfect.
Chocolate Peanut butter fan?? Have no worries they are about to blow your mind.
I am the most excited for Hazed and Confused which is chocolate hazelnut ice cream with fudge chips and a hazelnut fudge core that is like CREAMY NUTELLA.
All of our lives are about to change and those nights on the couch with Ben & Jerry are about to be even more blissful.
duh duh duhhhh
The unanticipated holiday all singles dread, couples stress about, and married people forget lol.
From a personal perspective and putting my business out there, I will be spending this Valentines Day alone. and oh so happy lol. I luckily enough, will be out of town working the whole weekend, unable to break my 2 month long sobriety of looking at my exboyfriend's social media sites (GO ME! talk about self control lol) to see who his new flavor of the month is....
I'm trying to recall what I did last year when I "was in love".... and nothing comes to mind.
so I guess that is a good situation to be in, I won't be fixated on an amazing past memory!
But now, here is my issue: having little crushes and "things/flings", what are the rules?? Do you wish someone a Happy Valentines Day? Do you expect a gift? A date? Flowers? Do I do something for someone? HELP!
I am sure a couple of us are in this boat, or even madly in love with our significant other and completely clueless as what to do/give on this so called special day. Which I just think personally is the most overrated stupid holiday ever lol. I will stay off instagram and twitter all day, I can google image roses if I want to see pictures of them that bad.
So in my opinion on people in my situation, don't stress the small stuff, wish that guy a Happy Valentines day with a little :) emoji and say have a good day today or something like that, and lets just hope he doesn't send one to you in a mass text with 3 other girls . . . :I
If some guy asks you on a date or decides to give you something, don't feel awkward or uncomfortable that maybe you didn't think of anything to do, there is always next year... lol
Go on that date, accept that flower and enjoy being loved for that day! Also, don't expect anything from anyone, I've done that before then just completely lost all hope in life haha
FEB 14th IDEAS!:
Maybe have some friends over for a potluck/game night
Burn old pictures of your ex,
watch rom coms
laugh all together about ridiculous dating stories!
sit on tinder or something and right and left swipe each others phones
surround yourself with people you love and that love you back, rather than having a pity party population of 3 on your couch with you and Ben & Jerry...
"Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we're told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe this happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe... it's you.. on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is... just... moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never ever gave up hope."
"Don't waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all."
It all comes down to having respect. Respect for yourself.
This little quote has been really helpful to me lately with some things in life. We as humans are so special individually and so many times we forget that and sacrifice our sanity, happiness, and self worth for others. I'm going to be honest, we are all really smart, and you know when someone doesn't give two poops about you. Think about that one person, friend, ex, anyone that made you so mad and they know those buttons to press to get a rise out of you. Those people know how to bring out the worst in you, and don't deserve to be in your life. If they have the ability to turn you into a monster, they have no business or PRIVILEGE to be in your life. end of story!
So instead of screaming, crying, lashing out, wishing the worst for someone, losing sleep and your voice. Do nothing.
holy shit right? That is SO hard. Especially for me.
But I think about it like this now, wasting all that energy and time and tears on something or someone is pointless. They don't care about you for even making you feel like this, so why give them the gratification of you hurting.
Pick and choose who deserves to be touched by how special you are.
Because you ARE AMAZING and ONLY AMAZING humans should be in your life.
And those that are too messed in the head to see those amazing people, well I feel sorry for them and you should too.
Open your eyes, ears and heart to all the incredible people around you. Don't be egotistical or selfish. Don't settle for less because it's comfortable, don't hold onto nostalgia or memories because it makes you feel safe. Go make new ones with new people who love you :) every part of you, your words and your silence xo
Go forth this week and KICK ASS
2013 flew before my eyes. I never regret much, but one thing from the past year is that I didn't sit in the moments as much as I should of. I am not going to sit here and bore you with my grocery list long resolution list I made for myself, but one thing I will share is to be more open to inspiration. It is all around us! Especially out here in Los Angeles, there are so many good and bad things to be influenced by. Daily, I thank my parents for raising me with a good head on my shoulders to know the difference between the two, and having good people that surround me.
I'll keep this short and sweet since it is 73 degrees out today and I am going to go take my dog for a hike and enjoy this beautiful monday off to get laundry done and start organizing my life haha
Here are some awesome quotes I have been harvesting from my pintrest page (True Life: I am addicted to Pintrest) These brightened my day and set me straight for this week ahead. My new mantra is: ONE WEEK AT A TIME! :) Hopefully these inspired you as they did for me today! If you share them on twitter or instagram tag me! @danivitale
Have a great week!
“I can turn it on
Be a good machine
I can hold the weight of worlds
If that's what you need
Be your everything”
It is in perfect timing that my good friend Christina Perri came out with her music video to her single “Human” today. This song was my savior when I was going through a lot of emotional changes a couple months ago.Christina Perri - Human (Official) - Human (Official) - Free Music Videos
I always put certain songs as a soundtrack to my life, then years later when I hear it, it takes me back to that specific time and memories flood back. I noticed the other day driving around in the car doing errands, I put on a playlist I made a couple years ago when I had just gotten into a relationship. I remembered the joy and limitless feeling I had! I felt as if I could do anything, like I won some sort of race and these songs related to me perfectly. Listening to them yesterday I was taking such a different meaning from them, along with the overwhelming nostalgia, I was hearing and relating to the words differently? For example, the song “When I was your man” by Bruno Mars was just a sweet song I used to hear now and then and think it was pretty. Now when I hear it, it speaks to me haha, and I can actually relate to it now, where as before I was in dreamland and couldn’t.
“I can take so much
'Till I've had enough
Cause I'm only human
And I bleed when I fall down
I'm only human
And I crash and I break down
your words in my head, knives in my heart
You build me up and then I fall apart”
These lyrics the past month have spoken to me in numerous ways. It’s as simple as Christina states it, I am only human. I am going to have a breaking point where enough is enough. I have to be able to lookout for myself, and heart knowing when to say stop. I am going to make mistakes and fall back into something that is easy, comfortable or that I know. But when it breaks me down again I can’t get mad at myself, I’m human. I am going to naturally do whatever I can to make myself happy in that moment, and if it bites me in the ass or stabs me in the back I can’t lay there crying dwelling over it. I have to cut myself a break, it is okay to cry, bleed, yearn and fight. As long as you get back up, know no one is perfect and keep on fighting.
When that time comes, when you know something isn’t good for you, be stong, you can do it. Whether it’s a friendship, relationship, way of living, habit etc. There are going to be those tough days where you want to give in or up. Know that, if you do, it’s okay. We all do things we regret, but if we never did those things, how would we learn?
“your words in my head, knives in my heart
You build me up and then I fall apart”
All I do is replay things in my head over and over again, of what something once was, a memory, a smell, a song, a place. Positive or negative it hurts, it hurts that someone or something is gone, that moment is gone and ripped away from you. When that someone or something slips through your fingers that you can’t control, it hurts. A person made a great comparison the other day to me about losing someone, it is like being in the middle of a computer back up with your hard drive by putting everything you own onto it, then somehow it just disconnecting and all of a sudden you lose everything. Everything that you have invested was in that hard drive, pictures, music, memories, documents, files, folders, videos. All these things that are now… gone..How do we come back from this? I am trying to figure it out right now in many different ways. But I know that I am human for feeling this way and thankful my heart has the capacity to hurt, be happy and possess these emotions that some people are incapable of feeling.
Don’t ever apologize for crying, feeling, missing or remembering.
You are human.
Thank you Christina for writing this beautiful gem, being a beautiful person and making this beautiful music video.
Watch her music video and then share with me what it means to you.
Dec: 30th P.S I Love You
As the holiday season starts to end, the New Year is just around the corner; reality starts to set back in. But I think, why can’t reality be how we all feel and act around the Holidays? Everyone is giving, loving, warm, doing things spontaneously just because “it’s the holidays” I want to try and keep that spirit up even on holiday off-season, who is with me?
Her: “It’s like trying on a pair of shoes that I really want but they just don’t fit”
Him: “Sometimes you should try walking barefoot”
(really think about that^)
We try so hard at times to impress others and get a reaction from someone. What I have noticed lately when you are yourself, not reading or thinking too much into things, that is when the best response comes. Be goofy, talk and talk, say what you want. Holding things back are only going to hinder you in becoming who you are supposed to be. That person, whomever it is, will fall in love with YOU, and all of YOU. Don’t ever sell yourself short for anyone else.
Being home with family and friends that I will have a lifetime, made me realize no matter what I say or do, these people are here to stay, and will love me forever, and I get to be 100% myself. Being newly single, I have been in situations where I have to “play the game” once again.. Why? A. I don’t know how to play and B. I don’t want to play. The whole texting game of when, how, what, should I say this bullcrap is so annoying! I have this this is me, take it or leave it mentality and it shall keep me single forever, or find my perfect prince charming. Don’t get me wrong though, the lessons I have learned from this past break up are life changing.
This was my first love. My heart has been taking a beating, but I have been learning each day how to care for it and nurture it back to health. Accepting being “alone”. It’s hard. Shit. Being home with my family this past week I was forced to not be on the phone every night or during the day talking to that special someone but I felt the need to fill it with conversations with others. It felt weird not sharing daily family stories with that person who cared so much before, but now doesn’t care at all. It’s a hard process to swallow and at the same time I ask how that is even humanly possible to do lol. Everyone is different though I guess. I found myself one night sitting with my 20 year old brother as we were texting people and he was making fun of me and of what I was saying to this guy. He goes: “Dani, this is not like you lol what the hell are you doing? You sound SO dumb hahaha” I sat there and thought to myself, shit, he is right! But already having dug myself into a hole impossible to get out of I just decided to dodge it, embrace the awkwardness and not even try to explain myself as it was already too late lol.
My brother gave me daily insights on my life and how I should live it while I was in Ohio. “If he doesn’t want you he’s gay” “Don’t be so open and overly communicative” “You need to worry about you and not about everyone else” “If he’s not asking you questions he doesn’t care”.. THAT was a big one to me and I started seeing a trend. IF HE IS NOT ASKING YOU QUESTIONS HE DOESN’T CARE… think about that..My 20 year old brother who has never possessed a serious relationship nor has loved someone before had more insight than my therapist. It got me thinking a lot, and in a more simple form. Love is simple, It should be simple. Not saying every guy you text you “love” but everything should be simple, honest and just a good time. No over thinking, complication, miss reading should be happening.
So I guess the point of this is to be yourself. There is no point in stressing on how you come off to someone, if they care for you, they understand and don’t even think twice. You should never have to explain or sell yourself to someone. Don’t try, things happen when they should happen. Smile through everyday being the best you can be and that someone being the best they can be will find you :)
Ohio. Home. Where my heart is. Also the title of my favorite and only song I know by Hawthorne Heights...
Where I learned to love. I learned to love people, myself, dance, things, places, feelings, memories, life, everything.
I am back home now, sitting on my couch after being here a couple days, and I have realized SO much. Things have started making sense in a weird way, clearer almost. Being home makes me slow down, put things into perspective and find whom Dani Vitale is. I am going to be writing every night on my BUZZNET profile kind of like a journal for being home.
The past month has been a massive transition in my life. Things have been placed in and taken out of my life in an abrupt way. I have been writing a lot, pouring from my heart, but I thought it would be too much. So now, that I have some of those holes filled up (kind of) I am able to write without snot dripping onto my keyboard.
I fear being alone. I fear it so much where at times I let it control my happiness. I was so scared of that for a while, and now being “alone” doesn’t feel like alone anymore. I feel almost less alone which is so crazy. Last year I was here during a family transition year and I brought the person closest to me. This year as I come home alone I start to realize and see more things I need to work on as a human.
I think I’ll just mention the elephant in the room. I went through a break up. Yes, gasp, sigh, awe. Breakups. That word makes me want to bash my head into the coffee table my warm little feet are on. I have never felt so many emotions and had so many thoughts run through my brain in my life to date. I have had to learn to wake up and live a day for ME. What makes Dani happy? What does Dani want to conquer today? “Selfish” questions that have felt so unnecessary that now I honestly couldn’t live without in the future. We tend to forget about ourselves. My biggest fault is seeking happiness through other’s smiles. I have heard that is so awesome! But like everyone says, everything in MODERATION. I can’t even think of opening my heart back up. Maybe to look inside and say hi, you’ll be okay, but other than that it’s rough loving. Love is hard. I have been sharing this time with a handful of lady friends going through breakups lately and it’s all the same. Staying strong and independent, surrounding yourself with people that love you unconditionally and learning to love yourself is the best medicine.
So this is the opening blog rant on Love, my little life and being home in Ohio. Tonight I went and taught at my home studio, which is always so rewarding. Reminds me how special I really am when at times I think I am nothing. I have been hanging out with my brother, got his hair cut and eating home made food by my beautiful mother. The start of the week has been great. Again, Facetime, is a wonderful thing J
This quote touched my heart this past month:
“I know that you have lost someone and it hurts. You may have lost them suddenly, unexpectedly. Or perhaps you began losing pieces of them one day until there was nothing left. You may have known them all your life or you may have barely known them at all. Either way, it is irrelevant—you cannot control the depth of a wound that another soul inflicts upon you. So right now I am NOT sitting here telling you tomorrow is another day. That the sun will go shining. Or there are plenty of fish in the sea. What I am saying is this;
It’s okay to be hurting as much as you are. What you are feeling is not only completely valid but also necessary—because it makes you so much more human. And though I can’t promise it will get better any time soon, I can tell you that it will – eventually. For now, all you can do is take your time. Take all the time you need. At the end of that day, it’s you and your own happiness. No one can find and supply that for YOU.”